Why did ballet’s sexual exploitation become spectacle in the 19th century while orchestras cloaked theirs in velvet hush? Because the world tolerates violence against women when it comes with music and pearls. Because we only call it a scandal when it breaks the illusion. Ballet was a performance of femininity. So when the abuse happened, it was expected. Or worse, admired. Orchestras, on the other hand, carried the banner of refinement. So when the abuse happened, it was unt

Most women don’t wake up one day and decide to defend abusers. It’s subtler than that. It starts with what we’re taught to value: Be nice. Be likable. Don’t cause trouble. Don't be that woman. Be grateful for opportunities. Protect your mentor’s reputation. Play the game. And it starts early—sometimes in music school, sometimes in church, sometimes around the dinner table. We learn, little by little, that proximity to male power offers protection.